Much ado has been made about whether or not to register for gifts when you get married. Two distinct camps emerged, one arguing its flat-out tacky, the other reasoning that its better to tell them what you want, than get stuck with something you definitely don't (like a pink bunny suit). Enter to the mix the second-time bride, and the quandary just got larger.
Most of us second-timers (or third, or fourth) know that not everyone will be pleased that you are marrying again in the first place - so it is to be expected that silly things like registries will divide your guests too. I have been fortunate enough to attend a second wedding recently in which the couple did not register for anything. We ended up writing a check. Which is fine, nothing wrong with Moo-Lah, but we wish we could have wrapped something that they loved. It didn't matter to me that it was her second wedding - I wanted to celebrate with her. I realized quickly that perhaps a registry was indeed in order - even if I felt it was unnecessary.
So, even though I am putting a request to donate to a favorite charity on our website, we are also registering at a couple places for a few things in several price points. Its not a full registry, but there are some things we'd love to have. So go ahead, register for the things you would LOVE to have but its just not in the budget. Yes, there will always be those strange gifts - but at least you can give subtle nudges in the right direction. Most of your guests will appreciate it!
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